Parenting

Four Mistakes Singles Make

July 29, 2016 // 0 Comments

Stay the course because the one for you will come. Here are some mistakes to avoid when waiting on God in dating. 1) Settling:  To accept or agree to something that one considers to be less than satisfactory. Settling usually occurs after a long period of being single (or a short period, depending on the person), and we’ve decided that “waiting on God” is taking too long.  We start getting nervous thinking of the prospects (or loss of prospects), our age and all the other what ifs. God is not a God of settling, He is a God that has always given more than the best to His children.  We decide if we settle, not God. You are not missing out; you are getting in position for God to bring the right one to you, in His timing.  Anything less than that will inevitably fail and bring unnecessary heartbreak. 2) Blind to Red Flags:  Lacking perception, awareness, or discernment. In order to not be blind to the red flags, you must be very clear on what the red flags are to you in a [...]

Are You a Happy Parent

July 24, 2016 // 0 Comments

Brad Mathias Description We can feel adrift, lost and out of control, or we can choose to trust there is a guiding hand along the way. “Are you happy?” If you’re struggling on this one… just to be sure… ask your family. If the answer is “NO”, then it may be time to seriously and honestly reflect. It may be time to make some changes in your life… Work Less, Play More / or Work More and Play Less… ? Sometimes it’s more subtle than that. Sometimes its internal change we really need. A shift in our understanding of life and the role we’re actually playing in it. We can feel adrift… lost and out of control, or we can choose to trust there is a guiding hand along the way. That’s a change in our attitude and it can make a HUGE difference in our happiness. Choices need to be made. Decisions arrived at and courage called upon to make those changes. Otherwise, you and I will be exactly the same next year as we are right now. Guaranteed. Be [...]

Developing Common Interests With Your Son

July 11, 2016 // 0 Comments

by Wayne Parker Often, men learn how to be fathers from watching and remembering how their fathers interacted with and parented them. Our fathers are often our most familiar role models, and they influence many of our behaviors as fathers. This is maybe most true in how we parent our sons, because all of us were sons once, and none of us were daughters! One of best indicators of the quality of a father-son relationship is how we interact and the way in which we spend time with each other. Finding areas of common interest is an important part of developing the father-son relationship. My dad was a law enforcement officer during my growing up years and he worked a lot of shift work. Dad was a man’s man in many ways. He played a lot of sports and enjoyed time with his friends (what little he had other than at work). I was more of a bookworm, was uncoordinated growing up and hated playing sports and physical education at school. He worked really hard to make me like sports and [...]

Singleness

May 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

  by Caolyn McCulley Sanctification is the process of becoming spiritually mature. What does this look like for single adults? Sanctification in the Season of Singleness Sanctification refers to the process of becoming spiritually mature or being set apart for holy use. For single adults, sometimes it feels like we’re just being set aside. This is an unintentional byproduct of the typical marriage testimony. When couples speak of their first year of marriage, they often remark that they thought they were mature—until they got married. Then their selfishness was revealed. Yes, that’s one way God works, and it can be fairly intense. But it is not the only way. When said to an unmarried adult, we can hear: “Not only are you unwanted for marriage, you are also consigned to a lifetime of immaturity!” Neither of those thoughts is true, of course. Every believer can (and should!) pursue spiritual maturity. Fortunately, Hebrews 5:13–14 shows us one of the ways this process [...]

Reaching Your Family

May 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

  by Jack Graham The place to begin sharing God’s truth is at home. That’s where we’re to live authentically, walking with God and showing others the grace He’s given us. The Key to Reaching Your Family First As he was getting into the boat, the man who had been possessed with demons begged him that he might be with him. And he did not permit him but said to him, “Go home to your friends and tell them how much the Lord has done for you, and how he has had mercy on you.”  Mark 5:18-19 I’m always intrigued when I read the story of Jesus healing the demon-possessed man in the land of the Gerasenes. This man had been living in the graveyard, isolated from the rest of the community, and exhibited self-destructive tendencies. The townspeople had tried to bind him with chains, but the man would break free. So in came Jesus. And when the man saw him from afar, he immediately recognized the Lord and began shouting at him, begging Jesus not to torment him. So Jesus cast the [...]

Jesus and Me

May 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

  by ignite Your Faith What if you knew Jesus as well as you know your best friend? Do People See Jesus in Me? “You don’t think the teacher will hear us, do you?” my lab partner whispered to me. We were watching an extremely boring video on the lifestyle of the cell. Instead of taking notes, we were talking. “Nah, I don’t … ” Before I could finish my sentence, I looked up and saw the teacher standing over us, giving a stern look. “Just kidding!” I blurted out, not sure why I said it. I guess it just seemed to be the best way to lighten up what could turn into a tense situation. “What did you say?” my teacher asked in a tone that seemed more surprised than angry. “Uh, just kidding.” “You know, you sound like the girl who sits in your seat the period earlier. Come to think of it, you two sound a lot alike. I’m sure you must be friends with Lauren.” “Well, yes … we’re very good [...]

Work of Marriage

May 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

  vy Focus on the Family What does the “work” of marriage actually look like? Andrew Hess gives insight on how to address this aspect of married life. The Work of Marriage Recently, I received a question in an email. “I sometimes feel like all the ‘just you wait for the other shoe to drop’ folks are out there trying to steal my joy–and I have to remind myself that they’re often just applying their own experiences to what I should expect and trying to get me to temper my own expectations accordingly. In short, they have my best interests in mind. But I kind of want to live in the sort of world where the ‘work’ part of marriage becomes an afterthought. I think in a lot of ways we’ve bought into some kind of silliness that marriage is terribly, horribly hard. The world is all about the ‘ol’ ball and chain’ and your ‘life being over’ after you marry. That life-long marriage is some kind of [...]

Good News for You

May 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

by Sylvia Gunter With all of the negative news in the world, Sylvia Gunter shares some good news: God is still God, and He knows the plans that He has for you! Good News for You With all the negative news in the media, today I want to share with you some good news. God is still God, and he knows the plans that he has for you. That doesn’t mean that life will get easier. The famous verse in Jeremiah we like to quote was written to people in captivity for seventy years! But it is still true. Regardless of what today brings, God is still God. Hear God’s Word in Jeremiah 29:11. “I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Precious one, be blessed with the love of Christ for emotional healing. The psalmist said that his body was troubled, and his soul was greatly troubled (Ps. 6:2-3). Be blessed with peace and hope being restored to you. The mind may have witnessed [...]

Dealing with Fear

May 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

  by Dr Charles Stanley Dr. Charles Stanley shares four steps that will help you overcome fear and anxiety. Dealing with Fear Philippians 4:6 Not only is anxiety an uncomfortable feeling; it also leads to negative consequences. For example, reasoning becomes cloudy when permeated with worry. So an anxious person will have trouble making wise decisions. Fear of failure may also lead to procrastination or a lack of productivity. Apprehensions can devastate personal and spiritual growth, relationships, and work. So conquering fear is important. Four steps can help: 1. Identify the fear. Ask yourself, What are the circumstances surrounding my feelings? What triggered them? What message am I telling myself? 2. Turn to the Lord. Remember that God loves you and desires a close relationship with you. He is in sovereign control of your situation, so bring your apprehension to Him. 3. Rebuke the fear before God. You have the authority and power in Jesus’ name to reject what isn’t from [...]

Pride Humility

May 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

  by Rick Warren Pride destroys relationships, but humility builds them. If you want to have more humility, then spend time with Jesus Christ. Pride Destroys, Humility Builds Up “Be humble and give more honor to others than to yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3bNCV)Pride destroys relationships. It shows up in a lot of different ways — like criticism, competition, stubbornness, and superficiality. The problem with pride is that it’s self-deceiving. Everybody else can see it in us but us. When you have a problem with pride, you don’t see it in your life. Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride leads to destruction; a proud attitude brings ruin” (NCV). I love this verse in the Message paraphrase: “First pride, then the crash — the bigger the ego, the harder the fall.” Pride destroys relationships, but humility is the antidote to pride. Humility builds relationships. The Bible says in 1 Peter 3:8, “Live in harmony, be sympathetic, love each other, have compassion, and be [...]