Devotions for Singles

Four Mistakes Singles Make

July 29, 2016 // 0 Comments

Stay the course because the one for you will come. Here are some mistakes to avoid when waiting on God in dating. 1) Settling:  To accept or agree to something that one considers to be less than satisfactory. Settling usually occurs after a long period of being single (or a short period, depending on the person), and we’ve decided that “waiting on God” is taking too long.  We start getting nervous thinking of the prospects (or loss of prospects), our age and all the other what ifs. God is not a God of settling, He is a God that has always given more than the best to His children.  We decide if we settle, not God. You are not missing out; you are getting in position for God to bring the right one to you, in His timing.  Anything less than that will inevitably fail and bring unnecessary heartbreak. 2) Blind to Red Flags:  Lacking perception, awareness, or discernment. In order to not be blind to the red flags, you must be very clear on what the red flags are to you in a [...]

Singleness

May 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

  by Caolyn McCulley Sanctification is the process of becoming spiritually mature. What does this look like for single adults? Sanctification in the Season of Singleness Sanctification refers to the process of becoming spiritually mature or being set apart for holy use. For single adults, sometimes it feels like we’re just being set aside. This is an unintentional byproduct of the typical marriage testimony. When couples speak of their first year of marriage, they often remark that they thought they were mature—until they got married. Then their selfishness was revealed. Yes, that’s one way God works, and it can be fairly intense. But it is not the only way. When said to an unmarried adult, we can hear: “Not only are you unwanted for marriage, you are also consigned to a lifetime of immaturity!” Neither of those thoughts is true, of course. Every believer can (and should!) pursue spiritual maturity. Fortunately, Hebrews 5:13–14 shows us one of the ways this process [...]

Red Flags

May 2, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Lysa TerKeurst A group of teenage girls were recently asked if they would date a boy simply because he was good looking. Hi, I’m Lysa TerKeurst for Proverbs 31 Ministries. Most said yes, they would date someone on good looks alone. My friend who was asking the question asked another, “But what do you know about him?” The silence made her point. She then talked with the girls about 5 red flags to look for before entering a dating or courting relationship with a guy. Does he lose his temper frequently? Does he consider himself a failure and seem to be looking for a rescuer? Has there been abuse in his home? Does he often put you down or disrespect you? And, does he appear to be jealous, controlling, or need to spend all his free time with you? I thought these questions could help everyone avoid getting into a situation that could lead to [...]

Beware of the Snares

May 2, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Leilani Glassmyer Stay the course because the one for you will come. Here are some mistakes to avoid when waiting on God in dating. 1) Settling:  To accept or agree to something that one considers to be less than satisfactory. Settling usually occurs after a long period of being single (or a short period, depending on the person), and we’ve decided that “waiting on God” is taking too long.  We start getting nervous thinking of the prospects (or loss of prospects), our age and all the other what ifs. God is not a God of settling, He is a God that has always given more than the best to His children.  We decide if we settle, not God. You are not missing out; you are getting in position for God to bring the right one to you, in His timing.  Anything less than that will inevitably fail and bring unnecessary heartbreak. 2) Blind to Red Flags:  Lacking perception, awareness, or discernment. In order to not be blind to the red flags, you must be very clear on what the red flags [...]

God and My Sex Life

April 28, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Diana Kerr To be honest, I did not want to write about this topic. Nope. Not one bit. When a message appeared in my inbox suggesting I blog about this topic, my head thought, “No way. Don’t wanna go there.” Christians and their sexual choices . . . it’s such a sensitive, heavy topic. I didn’t want to deal with it at all. It’s so hard to talk about this stuff without sounding judgy. And I never know what to say. Which is exactly why I felt God nudging me—I had to write about it. Because I don’t like dealing with this issue, and I don’t really know how. But as much as I hate to admit it, the issue’s not going away. (And before I go on, let’s be clear that I’m just as guilty of breaking commandments as anyone else. I come at this topic without judgment. It is God’s place to judge, not mine.) To continue this theme of honesty, I’m going to be really truthful: It breaks my heart how Christians have detached their faith from their sexual choices and [...]

I Wish

April 26, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Lysa Terkeurst “Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow.” Matthew 6:34a (MSG) I remember the hardest day of the week for me when I was single was Sunday. Specifically, Sunday right after church. Many of my other single friends would have plans with their families that day, but not me. My family lived nine hours away. So, I’d walk through the parking lot, watching young moms ooh and ahh over Sunday school artwork and I’d think, Their lives seem so blissfully full. I’d walk past an older couple holding hands and think, They are so lucky to have such an easy, breezy life. I’d walk past a gal walking arm in arm with her boyfriend and think, She is so fortunate to feel loved. And then I’d get in my car and decide happiness, fulfillment and contentment were something to hope for in the future, when I found the life I desperately wanted. I was focusing on what could be instead of [...]

Three Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was Single

April 24, 2015 // 0 Comments

  by Lysa TerKeurst Rather than yearn for the future or long for that special “someone,” why not choose to give your full attention to what God is doing in your life right now? Three Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was Single “Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow.” Matthew 6:34a (MSG) I remember the hardest day of the week for me when I was single was Sunday. Specifically, Sunday right after church. Many of my other single friends would have plans with their families that day, but not me. My family lived nine hours away. So, I’d walk through the parking lot, watching young moms ooh and ahh over Sunday school artwork and I’d think, Their lives seem so blissfully full.I’d walk past an older couple holding hands and think, They are so lucky to have such an easy, breezy life. I’d walk past a gal walking arm in arm with her boyfriend and think, She is so [...]

The Sinister Side

April 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Makena Clawson I blame Ariel. She was always my favorite Disney princess, and now that I’m starting to search for a potential spouse, the standard they need to measure up against is Prince Eric. Fabulous. It’s hard enough to find a guy with luscious, raven-black hair, to say nothing of a muscular build, sparkling laugh, nautical sensibilities and pipe-playing skills. From a young age, women in our American culture are advertised into believing that we are princesses, that we deserve perfection when it comes to our prince, and that we will eventually settle down in a little romantic cottage or a glorious castle with little singing animals to help us tend to our chores. But it gets better—after the princess stage we get corralled into reading preteen magazines and drooling over the heart-throb celebs whose life-size posters hung in our (okay, maybe just my) closet. For some reason a teenage girl has the power to hold out hope against all the odds that the movie star of [...]

Rejected yet Abounding in Love

April 19, 2015 // 0 Comments

  by Focus on the Family Dating can be frustrating; when things don’t work out, we might feel tempted to treat each other in a hateful way. Andrew Hess writes how as Christians we can overcome this temptation. Rejected yet Abounding in Love One of the challenging aspects of Christian dating is when things don’t work out the way we had hoped. Both men and women can quickly slip into excitement and anticipation over a budding, new relationship. But then, it seems, an incalculable number of things can come along and sabotage the whole thing. Dating can sometimes feels like building a house of cards on a windy day. Dating can be frustrating. Truth be told, getting to know someone and starting to date is risky business. The more we spend time with someone, the more we will naturally and increasingly trust them with our heart, our emotions, our happiness, etc. And it’s natural for there to be pain and frustration when things don’t work out. Maybe you’ve felt the [...]

Sweep Her Off Her Feet

April 13, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Beth and Jeff Jones He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Prov 18:22, AMP Okay single boys and girls, today and tomorrow we are going to focus on you! Specifically, if you’re in your twenties and ready to start thinking about dating and marriage—you have to do it right! Don’t buy into all the pretend love you see in the media or gossip magazines. Relationships, love and marriage are a lot more fun than what you see on TV or in the movies. So, today’s devotional is for the boys. Let me give you some motherly advice on what a girl wants. (Girls, tomorrow Jeff will give you some fatherly advice on what a boy wants.) Okay guys, here’s what a girl wants. She wants you to sweep her off her feet! All her life she’s had this crazy dream that she’s Cinderella and that one day her Prince Charming would come along and literally sweep her off her feet with the glass slipper. You’d be surprised how easy this is to do! This is not an [...]