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Reaching Your Family

May 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

  by Jack Graham The place to begin sharing God’s truth is at home. That’s where we’re to live authentically, walking with God and showing others the grace He’s given us. The Key to Reaching Your Family First As he was getting into the boat, the man who had been possessed with demons begged him that he might be with him. And he did not permit him but said to him, “Go home to your friends and tell them how much the Lord has done for you, and how he has had mercy on you.”  Mark 5:18-19 I’m always intrigued when I read the story of Jesus healing the demon-possessed man in the land of the Gerasenes. This man had been living in the graveyard, isolated from the rest of the community, and exhibited self-destructive tendencies. The townspeople had tried to bind him with chains, but the man would break free. So in came Jesus. And when the man saw him from afar, he immediately recognized the Lord and began shouting at him, begging Jesus not to torment him. So Jesus cast the [...]

Work of Marriage

May 21, 2015 // 0 Comments

  vy Focus on the Family What does the “work” of marriage actually look like? Andrew Hess gives insight on how to address this aspect of married life. The Work of Marriage Recently, I received a question in an email. “I sometimes feel like all the ‘just you wait for the other shoe to drop’ folks are out there trying to steal my joy–and I have to remind myself that they’re often just applying their own experiences to what I should expect and trying to get me to temper my own expectations accordingly. In short, they have my best interests in mind. But I kind of want to live in the sort of world where the ‘work’ part of marriage becomes an afterthought. I think in a lot of ways we’ve bought into some kind of silliness that marriage is terribly, horribly hard. The world is all about the ‘ol’ ball and chain’ and your ‘life being over’ after you marry. That life-long marriage is some kind of [...]

Abiding in Friends

May 6, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Dr. John Jackson Friends Helping Friends Follow Christ. It is my hope you will be helped to follow Christ…either as someone who needs to cross the line of faith, or someone who has already and needs help in following Him. John 14 closes with, “Come now, let us leave!” which suggests that the next two chapters may have been spoken on the way to the Garden. It is probable that Christ and His disciples were passing some vineyards. If you can, I’d like you to imagine Christ holding six darts in His hand… Each of the following six darts are aimed at your heart… how you can follow Him… “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear [...]

Keep Your Love Alive

May 3, 2015 // 0 Comments

by Dr Gary Smalley Are you looking for some practical ways to keep the love in your marriage alive? Try these 12 tips. 12 Ways To Keep Your Love Alive Praise is such a great gift, and it’s so easy to give. So look at the things that make your spouse and others unique and develop the habit of praising them for those special things. Every painful trial is like an oyster, and there is a precious pearl, a personal benefit, in every one; every single one. Don’t go it alone. Welcome fresh insights of other perspectives, from extended family, friends, good marriage books, or a qualified marriage counselor. In a mutually satisfying relationship, both people’s needs are expressed, and they have the flexibility to give and take. Honor goes hand in glove with love, a verb whose very definition is doing worthwhile things for someone who is valuable to us. All our trials, great and small, can bring more of the two best things in life: love for life and love for others. Oneness does not mean [...]

Family of Purpose

May 1, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Dennis Rainey When was the last time you thought about how your family can grow in Christ and make a difference for the kingdom? Don’t wait any longer. Now is the perfect time to step back and evaluate what your life looks like and to implement changes that can help you and your family grow stronger together. I would like to challenge you to start out by making eight changes that would help you to become a family of purpose. These ideas won’t cure every problem that you have, but if you take them seriously and commit to do them, they will help you refocus. And as a result, positive change will take place in your home. Marriage Pray with your spouse every day. This is the single most important investment you could make in your marriage. Why? Prayer is one of the most intimate forms of communication God gives us. It knits your heart together with your mate’s. For Barbara and me, practically speaking, no other spiritual discipline has done a better job of placing [...]

Sibling Rivalry

April 30, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Karen Stubbs Genesis 4: 8 Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.” And while they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him. Sibling rivalry has been around since the very first set of brothers and will be around until Jesus returns.  As a mom, we cannot rid ourselves of this curse, but we can teach our children about jealousy and the devastating effects jealousy has on a family and on each other. In my family, I would call jealousy out and I even named it. We called jealousy The Green Monster.  So, when my children were fighting over toys, envying the other sibling’s newest gadget, clothes, car, etc. I would say, “What is on your back?”  My children would usually reply, “The Green Monster.”  I would say, “Get it off your back and address your jealousy or it will take hold of your life. You need to celebrate your brother/sister and be happy for them.  Your day will come.” Jealousy is a natural emotion that [...]

The Things We Do For Love

April 29, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Renee Swope “What a person desires is unfailing love …” (Proverbs 19:22a, NIV) I had everything I wanted yet felt empty and confused. My life was full of relationships and accomplishments I’d worked hard to gain, but none could fill or fulfill me. Frustrated by my aching emptiness, tears streamed down my face as I thought about the guy I dated through high school and college. Our future plans had crumbled under the pressure of me expecting him to be all I needed. I had been crazy about him — a little too crazy. I’ll never forget the time a friend mentioned my ex-boyfriend was heading to our hometown for the weekend. We worked near each other, so Friday afternoon I parked by his office and waited for him to leave. We both “happened” to be at the same fast food restaurant, at the same time and bumped into each other. After getting my order, I got in my car and followed behind him, hoping he’d see me, realize he couldn’t live [...]

Superior Wife Syndrome

April 26, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Barbara Rainey On a recent Monday morning, I had turned on the Today Show to catch our local news and weather on the half hour. As I listened from the kitchen I heard one of the hosts introduce an author with new research on wives. The title of her book is The Superior Wife Syndrome. When I heard the intro I grabbed my notepad and sat down to hear about the latest syndrome to afflict our population. I was ready to critique. But as I listened I found myself agreeing with some of what she said, though I wouldn’t go so far as to label it a syndrome. The author, Karen Rubenstein, has discovered that millions of wives think they do everything better than their husbands. They feel they are more responsible, more capable, and in a word, superior. Hmmm, I thought. Sounds a little more like pride to me. There is truth to this discovery. Beginning in the 1960s, women have been instructed to do it all. We’ve been told we can work full time and raise kids at the same time, all [...]

Speak Well of Your Mate

April 23, 2015 // 0 Comments

By Bayless Conley Exodus 20:7 gives us our third commandment of marriage, You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain, for the LORD will not hold him guiltless who takes His name in vain.” Many misunderstand the term, in vain. It means empty, meaningless, insincere, not showing due respect. When we speak flippantly or lightly about someone, we erode our respect for that person. Some people are just far too casual in the way they speak of their spouse, and it erodes your respect for him or her. In marriage, few things can affect the relationship like words.  Words are containers.  They can contain love; they can contain hate; they can contain joy; they can contain bitterness. The book of James says that our tongue is like a rudder on a ship.  It will send the ship of your marriage in whatever direction your words go.  Some people are on the brink of divorce because they talk divorce. Just listen to the words they say.  Are they negative or positive?  Critical or [...]

Thriving Marriage = Healthy Family

April 23, 2015 // 0 Comments

  by Greg Smalley Healthy families are made up of healthy individuals—and happy marriages tend to produce thriving, well-adjusted kids. Here are 11 distinctive qualities that are vital to a successful marriage. Thriving Marriage = Healthy Family Dear Greg, Sometimes I feel that my wife and I spend so much time in our roles as mom and dad that we neglect our own relationship.  Do we just need to recognize that our needs as a couple have to be put on hold until our kids are older and less demanding? Answer: I think most couples with kids can relate to your dilemma.  I replied last month to a mom who wanted to know how she could help her family thrive.  I pointed out that healthy families are made up of healthy individuals, and that happy, successful marriages tend to produce thriving, well-adjusted kids.  In response to your question, I’d like to expand on that idea. If loving, connected spouses make the most effective moms and dads, the best thing you can do for your [...]