By The Whatever Girls
I spent the majority of my teens and 20s swooning over countless young men. I was boy-crazy.
Perhaps a certain boy is on your mind 24/7. Maybe you believe that having a boyfriend will make you 100% content and satisfied. If so, I pray you’ll consider reading Paula Hendricks new book, Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey fFrom Neediness to Freedom. What follows is a portion of my story and review of the book.
By the time I finished reading the fourth paragraph (not the fourth chapter mind you, but literally the fourth paragraph) of this book, I was hooked.
On page 18, Paula confesses:
“… I wanted off my merry-go-round ride that never stopped its perpetual spinning. It went something like this:
Spot a cute boy (we’ll call him Boy A).
Dream about Boy A.
Do whatever it takes to make Boy A notice me.
Even though Boy A doesn’t pursue me, hang onto my dream of Boy A…
Mend my broken heart by hating Boy A and finding another cute boy (Boy B).
Replace Boy A with Boy B.
Dream about Boy B.
Make sure Boy B notices me.
Hang on to my dream of Boy B until he…
Move on to another cute boy—Boy C.
The truth is, I went through an entire alphabet—and more—of boys over the years.”
I so get this.
My list of dream hunks spanned the entire English alphabet, as well as the alphabet of several foreign languages. By the time I entered my late 20s, I wanted to be married like everyone around me. I found myself on this same merry-go-round of thinking and feeling. I was incredibly unhappy, and God’s presence seemed to elude me no matter how hard I prayed or no matter how hard I tried not to “like” another boy.
Is there hope for those that day dream about a boy after boy? Is there hope for those who need to have a boyfriend ALL the time (and who will do anything to get one)?
Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl, is full of wisdom and encouragement for young girls who want to break the habit of moving through an alphabetical list of love interests, and for those wanting freedom from heartache and hopelessness. I love how this book combines snippets of Paula’s personal journal entries with solid Biblical teaching. Paula addresses issues such as temptation, beauty, jealousy, and the danger of forcing a “happy ending” in an honest, wise, and sometimes, humorous manner.
Teen girl, if you feel rejected or guilty for having boys constantly on your brain, or fear spending the rest of your life alone, you are more normal than you think. You are NOT beyond the saving and redeeming work of God in your heart either. I am proof of this.
Over time, my need for male attention decreased as my desire for God’s affection increased. When God decided it was time, He brought my husband into the picture. Was I perfect in every way when I met Chad?
Yet, God helped me find deeper security and contentment in His love for me so I could freely love the husband He has given to me.
The merry-go-round in my mind has ceased…
How did Paula’s journey from “neediness to freedom” end? Did God finally bring Mr. Right into her life? You will have to read the book to find out! I believe the final sentences of this book will truly inspire your heart –especially if it is occupied with Boy “C” or “Q” or “Z” right now.